Kathryn

Love & Support

Commissioned by: Valerie Polichar

“ I am humbled to be surrounded by so much love + support, and can’t find the words to explain how that lifts and heals me.”

Valerie knew exactly who to give Message Eggs to. Her friend Kathryn was living with life-threatening illness and undergoing one treatment regime after another.

Now Valerie lives in San Diego and Kathryn in England; their mutual friends are all over the world. So this commission bridged many oceans, inside and out.

Here’s what Kathryn wrote to them all, word for word. We asked her permission to share it with you.

“Today I received the beautiful Message Eggs gift you organised, and all contributed to!

“I cannot tell you how much that means to me, or say thank you enough for taking the time to create such a thoughtful and heartfelt gift.

“It’s just perfect – everything, from the beautiful carved box they came in, to the seeds which I am so excited to plant and hopefully watch grow, and of course the messages you all wrote. I am humbled to be surrounded by so much love and support, and can’t find the words to explain how that lifts and heals me.

“I actually sat on the floor carefully breaking open some of the “eggs” to read the messages inside (I have put all the pieces in a sealed Ziploc ready for planting!) and found myself quite overwhelmed with the emotion of it all – but in a good way.

“Nearly a whole box of Kleenex later, I’ve calmed down enough to email you 🙂

“I’m going to glue all the messages as I open them into my journal, so I can look at them and feel you are all here with me whenever I want.”

Message Eggs founder Libby got to know Kathryn when she got in touch to ask about sharing her feedback. A friendship began, and Kathryn is joining us in an advisory role. (She is a senior health services professional and a wise woman indeed.)

Over several long phone calls, a recorded indepth case study as part of Libby’s post-graduate studies, and many emails, we came to understand how much potential there was for Message Eggs to offer real support for people living with major illness.

Here’s some more of Kathryn’s feedback:

“I want to say how important it has been for me. I’ve kept the messages and put them in my journal. I go back and read them when I am having a bad day.

“People are busy and I don’t want to encroach on their space. This is something they can do in their own time. It’s easier for them to write something in this way, to say what they want to say, to share their love, than sitting in front of me. It gives them time to think and write, to reflect.”

“And even things that might seem a bit silly to others have a lot of meaning for me.”

“By framing what was happening with the message collection process, it become okay not just to talk about my illness but to normalise it.

“One of the hardest things about being very ill, and living alone, is the sense of isolation and the taboos around. It opened up conversations for me that people were not sure how to begin.”

“Message Eggs is such a wonderful and creative way to express all of the things we need to say to people, whatever the circumstances.”

Valerie just contacted us to say “What I enjoyed most was the great sense of joy in making someone else happy, and in the anticipation of her reading the messages”.

“Nothing compares to the light in someone’s eyes when they receive such a gift and read the messages inside. It’s a gift of heart, and there is nothing greater we can give.”

 

[Message Eggs are private unless people choose to share aspects of their experience and/or their messages. Sometimes they will not want their own image used and will chose an animal they like instead.]

THE MESSAGES

On difficult days I imagine us touring Kew Gardens together. We smell flowers, see arching green stems, tree limbs. Birds are singing & you are always pointing out to me something I've missed.

Valerie

A little magic egg in your hand, a little sparkling egg full of cheer and hope and laughter and fun and joy that we are friends. I've stuffed it full of rainbows, special dancing rainbows for you.

Astrid

may my heart always be open to little /
birds who are the secrets of living /
whatever they sing is better than to know /
- e.e. cummings

Valery

"Promise me you'll always remember: You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” (A.A. Milne) - for a brave, strong and smart lady… now with added eggs. :-)

gillpea

You are a very special chickpea, Kathryn. You are a wise keeper of secrets. You are a beautiful (and impressive) human being. One day maybe there will be tea in the sunshine. I'm a (very) big fan. xx

Sophie

Kathryn

"I cannot tell you how much that means to me, or say thank you enough for taking the time to create such a thoughtful and heartfelt gift."

valerie polichar

Valerie

"Nothing compares to the light in someone's eyes when they receive such a gift and read the messages inside. It's a gift of the heart, and there is nothing greater we can give."